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In our most recent post, we explore the theme of taking things for granted. Join us as we reflect on the importance of appreciating the simple moments in life that often go unnoticed. Let me take you through.

Hi,

Today was one of those days! I’m home now, sitting on my sofa overlooking the window in the sitting room. I love admiring the trees out there. I can also hear the trains passing by from time to time. It makes me stop for a second and pay attention to what is happening outside, in the same way that the trees move because of the wind. They make me think that, like them, life is always in constant movement. Sometimes, it is just a matter of time for us to realize that we are the ones who control our lives based on the choices that we make (or the ones that we don’t).

But, it wasn’t because of this that I took my laptop out and started typing.

Some time ago, my grandmother got a new smartphone. The one she used to have didn’t have the capacity for all the social apps. She got a WhatsApp account, and it was great that we could communicate a bit easier without having to call. We live in different countries, and those who have left home know that the internet helps very much to stay present in each other's lives. At the beginning, the excitement was what took over, but as time went on, she started sending “granny’s/mum’s message” every single morning, as we like to say in Brazil (I’m from Brazil, by the way). As the days went on, some sort of annoyance came along with those messages. But I never said anything to her about it, only to some friends and my therapist. Not long after that, she was diagnosed with cancer. It was a shock! Her morning messages continued, and most days I used to answer her, but sometimes I ignored what she had sent. One day, the messages stopped coming. On the first day, it was okay. On the second day, I was alarmed. On the third day, my anxiety hit. I didn’t know why she wasn’t texting anymore. So I texted her to see if she was okay. It turned out she was fine, just had forgotten to text me that morning. After that day, I never complained or thought of complaining about her “silly” texts again. I started valuing a bit more the simplicity of a “granny/mum” good morning text.

Someone that is in my life is a good “texter,” as I like to say to myself. They’re always texting me, updating me throughout the day on how their day is going, if they had a difficult customer, and asking about my day. After some time together, I understood that this is the way they are and the way they like to be. I had to learn how to accept and understand it. For many reasons, the texts weren’t coming today. I wasn’t really surprised because I knew why they weren’t coming. But knowing the reasons didn’t stop me from thinking!

I felt that something was missing from the day. I knew it was their texts.

It was then that I started comparing both situations, both very simplistic, ordinary texts from people who love me and are always willing to hear from me. I asked myself how we, or I, can sometimes ignore or take for granted those moments in life. Having someone present in our lives, even from afar, who is interested in what’s happening to us and wanting to tell us what’s happening to them, is something beautiful. In my opinion, it comes from a place of trust, companionship, love, and dedication. After today (and that day with my grandmother), I hope I can value those actions more and look at them with the love and respect they deserve.

I hope you, the reader, can pay attention to the little gestures in life that people around you are doing for you too.

With Love, 

Phellipe Lutterbeck